The Divorce Blame Game
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We all begin the divorce process convinced that everything is the other spouse's fault. All of the pain is a direct result of their bad behavior. Your ex is acting in complete disregard for your feelings.
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We all begin the divorce process convinced that everything is the other spouse's fault. All of the pain is a direct result of their bad behavior. Your ex is acting in complete disregard for your feelings. If your ex would only behave the divorce would go more smoothly. That you might have a part in this mess doesn't even occur to you. No, your spouse is to blame. He is one who cheated, lied, and betrayed you. How could you be responsible?
But when the dust settles you may start asking yourself some difficult questions. Was it really all your ex's fault? Was there anything you might have done or not done that could have contributed to this divorce?
This is where it gets tough. No one likes to think that they were responsible in any way for the failure of their marriage. It just has to be your ex's fault. Don't you have that long list of sins?
How could anyone draw a different conclusion?
Chances are that in most ways you are right, and your ex is wrong. Some of his actions might seem unforgivable. So, after all of the stress, heartache, and pain, why bother to accept any blame?
If you look inward instead of outward, you will be able to take control. With this power you will emerge from your divorce with greater insight, and valuable lessons for any future relationship.
Only a victim looks at an ex-spouse and says: "Because of you I do not trust anyone. Because of you my life is empty. Because of you I am in pain." In doing that, the victim gives her ex-husband a controlling power over her behavior. You are making your ex responsible for your life. In saying:
"It's not my fault," you are holding yourself back from the hard work of recovery. The longer you harbor this victim mentality, the longer you will deny yourself a chance at the life you deserve to live.
Don't hide from yourself. Dig deep into the memory of your past actions. Look at them, learn from them, and let them go. Forgive yourself. Until you do that you won't find forgiveness for anyone. Once you do it you might be pleasantly surprised that the anger you feel for your spouse is diminishing.
The willingness to let go of the past, and truly move on to a better place, is the key to peace and happiness.
Author: Christina Rowe
About Author:
Christina Rowe is the author of the new book Seven Secrets To A Successful Divorce-What Every Woman Needs To Know . Find out the survival skills that will save you time, money and heartache during your divorce.For your free Secrets of Divorce newsletter go to http://www.divorcesurvivalskills.com
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